Personal growth: Say “NO”
There is always a stigma attached when you say “NO.” Like black and white, we always associate a negative feeling to “no,” while in fact we should know by now there is more to the word than the refusal of the request or demand.
I told my little sister no when she asks me to go to the mall with her this weekend, since I prefer to submerge myself on fictional books instead. Am I selfish to refuse an offer of a bonding time with my sibling? Do I have to explain myself? Do I need to say sorry?
When saying “no,” the society dictates to give an explanation or apology in the least for the rejection. It is to be polite, to avoid hard feelings, and to give the rejected party a little bit of a consolation prize in the form of misguided pity disguised as false control.
This should not be the case. When you say “no,” say no – no explanations and definitely no apology. “Sorry,” is synonymous to admitting you made a bad decision in an attempt to keep the ties. You’ve grown past the crowd pleaser, which shows your personal development.
Personal development could only be achieved when you feel the most alive. And to get the fulfilled life you have to focus on your goals, what matters most, and what you will benefit in the long run. Yet, how will you achieve that when you keep on saying “yes”? Affirming to ideas, which should be disregarded in the first place, will have your energies wasted and your motivation running low. This negative feeling will affect your productivity further widening the gap between you and your goals until you give up for what was once attainable.
Saying “no” takes lots of guts. People will not be happy, but it is necessary to save yourself, your future endeavors, and the people you said “no” in the first place unnecessary heartaches. It is tough, yet it is the key in unlocking the best person you want to be.
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